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Don’t Catch the Ball

If someone throws a ball at you it doesn’t mean you have to catch it. I learned this many years ago when I was a Bilingual Trading Assistant at Bear Stearns. I had a manager at the time who was not a very good leader. She had a different way of saying this to me, or maybe it’s a different perspective. She would say “Lob the grenade”. In my early 20s, when I had this job, I knew it wasn’t the right way to think of it. You don’t want to pass the problem off, or “the ball” to someone else. You just don’t need to catch it.

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial

Watch to see what I’m talking about. And please forgive the lighting. I’m in the new house, am pressed for time and don’t know where the best spot is to record yet. Next week, I’ll have it all down.

Don’t we always want to run in and help? Think about conversations you have with friends, colleagues and family members. When people come to you with their issues and problems, it doesn’t mean that they’re looking at you to solve they’re problems every time. Sometimes, they just want you to nod along with them and feel like they’re being heard.

Don’t take it all on. You don’t have to. In fact, you’re not supposed to.

Here are those links I promised you in the video!

My very first She Owns It post, The Key to Creating Great Killer Content went up yesterday and holy Twitter! If mine didn’t blow up. I really wanted to share a different gif from A Night At The Roxbury here but couldn’t find it. You know when Will Ferrell’s character, Steve Butabi, enters the club and slightly panics because he feels he has to say hi to everyone in the room?

Well, you all know how I feel about thanking people when they share your posts? Yeah, I was all “hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up”. It was great, but also slightly stressful for me and needed some coddling. I’ll be a featured contributor there monthly, so I have to come up with a better plan for that!

Thursday’s are podcast day in my work week! This week on the Building Bridges Podcast Jenna and I talk to Nell of Whole Parenting Family (which I realize in the video I repeated twice, ahem). We talk about parenting, sex and the many paths motherhood can take. There are rap references, sex talk kids and tears. Why? Because that’s basically motherhood, right? I love hearing how these women (and men sometimes) live their lives to show that we can all connect with one another in some way.

On Tuesday, I shared a post right here titled 5 Sites That Will Change How You Blog. I share just 5 of the quazillion blogs and sites I follow using Feedly that has changed how I blog. Don’t discard them just because you may be a new blogger or feel it’s over your head. You’re smarter than you give yourself credit for.

I began reading these when I didn’t know what a .gif was. I just knew, like any new language, the more you expose yourself to it, the more sense it will make. If you’re serious about this blogging thing, then do the work!

Thursday’s are a big deal around here aren’t they? Video, podcasts, candy canes?

In what ways do you take on other problems and issues you probably shouldn’t? Does it happen at the office, on PTO boards, friendships? Let’s talk about it and remember, don’t catch the ball (not every time).

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial

How to Keep Your Blogging Head in the Game

I’m moving, I’ve been sharing about it all over the place. I’ve been sharing, partly because the move is a real upheaval for me. I didn’t realize just what a creature of habit I am and packing all of my stuff away is hard. There’s always a silver lining though, right? Or at least that’s how I roll.

How to Keep Your Blogging Head in the Game With all the packing, I've been keeping my head in the game of blogging, social media, marketing and strategy with podcasts. So what are you waiting for? Press play on this video post. I dare you! @faithfulsocial

With all the packing, I’ve been keeping my head in the game of blogging, social media, marketing and strategy with podcasts. So what are you waiting for? Press play. I dare you!

Here are those podcasts, twitter chat and app I mentioned, and where to find them!

Amy Porterfield

Invisible Office Hours

Being Boss

Brilliant Business Moms

Oh So Pinteresting

Social Media Examiner

Headspace App

BufferChat, so necessary when moving (on Wednesdays at 12PM ET!)

And MY podcast, Building Bridges Podcast, especially this week. It’s hilarious. Do you know Ike Ndolo? If you don’t, he will be your BFF within the hour. Stay tuned till the end where the bloopers will slay you. I was writing the show notes last night and couldn’t stop laughing.

That’s how I do it, I stay motivated and brimming with creativity with podcasts. Not just any podcasts either. I listen to podcasts about social media, pinterest, being your own boss and hustling your face off. I can listen and my hands can still do all the packing and bubble wrapping. When I am able to create content, craft a tweet or share a post, I’ve got all the ideas ready to go.

And just as a P.S., here’s the latest post I wrote for The SITS Girls around Organization Tips for Efficient Blogging, sounds fancy, right?

How to Keep Your Blogging Head in the Game With all the packing, I've been keeping my head in the game of blogging, social media, marketing and strategy with podcasts. So what are you waiting for? Press play on this video post. I dare you! @faithfulsocial

How to Break the Blogging Rules the Right Way

As a blogger, you want to be consistent. Your posts should have a consistent format, you should post on a consistent schedule and your content should be consistent and in keeping with your brand. Sounds a little boring after a while, doesn’t it? I think it can be. The antithesis (what’s up SAT word) of this is to have no plan and fly by the seat of your pants with regards to blog design, editorial content and schedule. 

As a blogger, you want to be consistent. Your posts should have a consistent format, you should post on a consistent schedule and your content should be consistent and in keeping with your brand. So how can you break the blogging rules, the right way? by @faithfulsocial

Let’s talk about life for a second. You know what’s consistent about that? Change. We’re getting a little esoteric here, but hang with me. How can you, as a blogger, break the rules the right way and still maintain consistency?

Consistency builds trust with your readers.

They come to expect and even wait on baited breath for your next post because you’ve let them know when and at what time they can expect an update from you.

Consistency gives you sanity.

If you’re doing it right, you never have to worry about what your next post is or how it fits in with your overall strategy of what to post. Planning, isn’t it great?

Consistency gives you a social life.

Setting a consistent blogging and content creation schedule means that you can then plug in everything else in your life like dinners out, time with friends or better yet, that early morning monthly massage!

Consistency allows you to be the Queen of all that you survey.

If you have your schedule set, you are in a better place to say yes or no to any upcoming opportunities because you have already committed to yourself first.  

And finally, if you’ve been consistent, that means you can break the routine every once in a while, and the world will keep spinning. It’s like your readers give you a pass. Why? Because it shows that you’re a real person and not a robotic machine. 

As a blogger, you want to be consistent. Your posts should have a consistent format, you should post on a consistent schedule and your content should be consistent and in keeping with your brand. So how can you break the blogging rules, the right way? by @faithfulsocial

I missed a video post last week (did you notice?) and it was just because I didn’t want to face a camera. I’m a little introverted, remember? I was in a bit of a funk, we’re moving, and I hate to pack. I thought it was better to just not share a video post because I am a slave to this consistent schedule.

Instead, I worked on updating my blog functionality and blog images, recorded podcasts, sent out my social media tip of the week to those that have signed up for it, and worked on my ecourse. I was still working and productive and that’s key. Be consistent in your progress, whatever it is that you want to get out of this blogging thing, work on pushing that – it doesn’t necessarily always mean a video post on Thursday at 9AM every.single.week.

So break the rules, if you’ve set them up right and stuck to them for a long while, it’s ok to break them. It changes things up and that keeps it interesting.

So tell me, how do you feel about breaking the cycle – every once in a while? Think your readers will notice? If you’ve done it, chime in and let me know how it made you feel. Probably pretty human, I bet.

 

As a blogger, you want to be consistent. Your posts should have a consistent format, you should post on a consistent schedule and your content should be consistent and in keeping with your brand. So how can you break the blogging rules, the right way? by @faithfulsocial

 

Be Your Brand

If we ever met me in real life, I’d be just as I am in the following video.

If we ever met in real life, I would be encouraging, talking about others who have inspired me that I think you should check out. 

Be Your Brand Building a brand isn't really that hard. In fact, there's one branding question you can ask yourself every time you try to connect with other bloggers, creatives or just people a video post by @faithfulsocial

If we ever met in real life, I would take you to my favorite ice cream shop where they serve up Maple Bacon Ice Cream.

If we ever met in real life, I would have a smile on from ear to ear, just like that picture of me on the right.

If we ever met in real life I would listen to you, ask questions and make you laugh your face off. I’m funny. Even this chick thinks so, and she’s a hilarious humor blogger that has written for HuffPo, Scary Mommy and others.

If we ever met in real life, you’d get that I am no different online than I am in real life (except maybe that funny part. I think my funny doesn’t translate as well in the written word. You need all the theatrics because I’m 4’11”).

Be Your Brand. Be who you are and own it. 

In today’s video post, I talk about being the same person on line that you are in real life. It should be an equal blend. If not, what’s the point? I talk about a person I met over the weekend who embodied this perfectly. It blew me away. 

Take a peek…

Remember that the profiles you are connecting with online, are real people.

People want to feel like they are being heard, because deep down we all want to matter. 

To stand out, all you have to do is remember that in every interaction you make. Ask yourself, how can I make this person feel heard? And act on it.  

The book I referenced is How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

And here is Uncustomary Art (Mary), on Facebook so her birthday present of 2,000 fans will be realized!

Here is the Instagram quote I referenced that was the inspiration for this post

I’m going on vacation next week. I’m authentically being my brand and taking a break, for realsies! I am not just doing it in real life and pretending that I’m on with automated tweets and shares. In real life, we need time to recharge, refresh and spend time with our families. But, you can go on vacation with me! Wouldn’t that be fun! We can share caramel lattes and glazed donuts on the lake and talk about that time I thought cutting my hair short was a great idea (The Karate Kid circa 1984 is not a good look for me).

I am sending an email to my VIP subscribers telling them how to spend a week with me in the Adirondacks (along with an exclusive social media tip of the week, per usual). 

Be Your Brand Building a brand isn't really that hard. In fact, there's one branding question you can ask yourself every time you try to connect with other bloggers, creatives or just people a video post by @faithfulsocial

How to Make Your Social Strategy Successful

You work hard at social media.

You strive to share the content of others more than your own.

You read everything you can from every respected blog and site on best practices.

But the needle isn’t moving. When will your “tipping point” arrive? When will all of your hard work pay off?

You read everything you can from every respected blog and site on best practices. But the needle isn't moving. When will your

In this video, not only do I talk about what not to do, I share a couple of ways to make your social strategy successful. You may already be using these strategies without even realizing it. If you are using these strategies, you’re more ahead of the game than you think. You can always level up these strategies by pivoting. Let me explain:

See how simple that is? Social media is daunting enough, let’s make it a little easier to cut through the noise and get to what matters, connection.

If you watched the video, you know what I’m going to ask you and you know what your challenge is. 

I’ll share my top 3 to 4 people, if you’ll share yours, in the comments.

You read everything you can from every respected blog and site on best practices. But the needle isn't moving. When will your