If someone throws a ball at you it doesn’t mean you have to catch it. I learned this many years ago when I was a Bilingual Trading Assistant at Bear Stearns. I had a manager at the time who was not a very good leader. She had a different way of saying this to me, or maybe it’s a different perspective. She would say “Lob the grenade”. In my early 20s, when I had this job, I knew it wasn’t the right way to think of it. You don’t want to pass the problem off, or “the ball” to someone else. You just don’t need to catch it.

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial

Watch to see what I’m talking about. And please forgive the lighting. I’m in the new house, am pressed for time and don’t know where the best spot is to record yet. Next week, I’ll have it all down.

Don’t we always want to run in and help? Think about conversations you have with friends, colleagues and family members. When people come to you with their issues and problems, it doesn’t mean that they’re looking at you to solve they’re problems every time. Sometimes, they just want you to nod along with them and feel like they’re being heard.

Don’t take it all on. You don’t have to. In fact, you’re not supposed to.

Here are those links I promised you in the video!

My very first She Owns It post, The Key to Creating Great Killer Content went up yesterday and holy Twitter! If mine didn’t blow up. I really wanted to share a different gif from A Night At The Roxbury here but couldn’t find it. You know when Will Ferrell’s character, Steve Butabi, enters the club and slightly panics because he feels he has to say hi to everyone in the room?

Well, you all know how I feel about thanking people when they share your posts? Yeah, I was all “hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up”. It was great, but also slightly stressful for me and needed some coddling. I’ll be a featured contributor there monthly, so I have to come up with a better plan for that!

Thursday’s are podcast day in my work week! This week on the Building Bridges Podcast Jenna and I talk to Nell of Whole Parenting Family (which I realize in the video I repeated twice, ahem). We talk about parenting, sex and the many paths motherhood can take. There are rap references, sex talk kids and tears. Why? Because that’s basically motherhood, right? I love hearing how these women (and men sometimes) live their lives to show that we can all connect with one another in some way.

On Tuesday, I shared a post right here titled 5 Sites That Will Change How You Blog. I share just 5 of the quazillion blogs and sites I follow using Feedly that has changed how I blog. Don’t discard them just because you may be a new blogger or feel it’s over your head. You’re smarter than you give yourself credit for.

I began reading these when I didn’t know what a .gif was. I just knew, like any new language, the more you expose yourself to it, the more sense it will make. If you’re serious about this blogging thing, then do the work!

Thursday’s are a big deal around here aren’t they? Video, podcasts, candy canes?

In what ways do you take on other problems and issues you probably shouldn’t? Does it happen at the office, on PTO boards, friendships? Let’s talk about it and remember, don’t catch the ball (not every time).

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial