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Don’t Catch the Ball

If someone throws a ball at you it doesn’t mean you have to catch it. I learned this many years ago when I was a Bilingual Trading Assistant at Bear Stearns. I had a manager at the time who was not a very good leader. She had a different way of saying this to me, or maybe it’s a different perspective. She would say “Lob the grenade”. In my early 20s, when I had this job, I knew it wasn’t the right way to think of it. You don’t want to pass the problem off, or “the ball” to someone else. You just don’t need to catch it.

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial

Watch to see what I’m talking about. And please forgive the lighting. I’m in the new house, am pressed for time and don’t know where the best spot is to record yet. Next week, I’ll have it all down.

Don’t we always want to run in and help? Think about conversations you have with friends, colleagues and family members. When people come to you with their issues and problems, it doesn’t mean that they’re looking at you to solve they’re problems every time. Sometimes, they just want you to nod along with them and feel like they’re being heard.

Don’t take it all on. You don’t have to. In fact, you’re not supposed to.

Here are those links I promised you in the video!

My very first She Owns It post, The Key to Creating Great Killer Content went up yesterday and holy Twitter! If mine didn’t blow up. I really wanted to share a different gif from A Night At The Roxbury here but couldn’t find it. You know when Will Ferrell’s character, Steve Butabi, enters the club and slightly panics because he feels he has to say hi to everyone in the room?

Well, you all know how I feel about thanking people when they share your posts? Yeah, I was all “hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up”. It was great, but also slightly stressful for me and needed some coddling. I’ll be a featured contributor there monthly, so I have to come up with a better plan for that!

Thursday’s are podcast day in my work week! This week on the Building Bridges Podcast Jenna and I talk to Nell of Whole Parenting Family (which I realize in the video I repeated twice, ahem). We talk about parenting, sex and the many paths motherhood can take. There are rap references, sex talk kids and tears. Why? Because that’s basically motherhood, right? I love hearing how these women (and men sometimes) live their lives to show that we can all connect with one another in some way.

On Tuesday, I shared a post right here titled 5 Sites That Will Change How You Blog. I share just 5 of the quazillion blogs and sites I follow using Feedly that has changed how I blog. Don’t discard them just because you may be a new blogger or feel it’s over your head. You’re smarter than you give yourself credit for.

I began reading these when I didn’t know what a .gif was. I just knew, like any new language, the more you expose yourself to it, the more sense it will make. If you’re serious about this blogging thing, then do the work!

Thursday’s are a big deal around here aren’t they? Video, podcasts, candy canes?

In what ways do you take on other problems and issues you probably shouldn’t? Does it happen at the office, on PTO boards, friendships? Let’s talk about it and remember, don’t catch the ball (not every time).

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial

How to Keep Your Blogging Head in the Game

I’m moving, I’ve been sharing about it all over the place. I’ve been sharing, partly because the move is a real upheaval for me. I didn’t realize just what a creature of habit I am and packing all of my stuff away is hard. There’s always a silver lining though, right? Or at least that’s how I roll.

How to Keep Your Blogging Head in the Game With all the packing, I've been keeping my head in the game of blogging, social media, marketing and strategy with podcasts. So what are you waiting for? Press play on this video post. I dare you! @faithfulsocial

With all the packing, I’ve been keeping my head in the game of blogging, social media, marketing and strategy with podcasts. So what are you waiting for? Press play. I dare you!

Here are those podcasts, twitter chat and app I mentioned, and where to find them!

Amy Porterfield

Invisible Office Hours

Being Boss

Brilliant Business Moms

Oh So Pinteresting

Social Media Examiner

Headspace App

BufferChat, so necessary when moving (on Wednesdays at 12PM ET!)

And MY podcast, Building Bridges Podcast, especially this week. It’s hilarious. Do you know Ike Ndolo? If you don’t, he will be your BFF within the hour. Stay tuned till the end where the bloopers will slay you. I was writing the show notes last night and couldn’t stop laughing.

That’s how I do it, I stay motivated and brimming with creativity with podcasts. Not just any podcasts either. I listen to podcasts about social media, pinterest, being your own boss and hustling your face off. I can listen and my hands can still do all the packing and bubble wrapping. When I am able to create content, craft a tweet or share a post, I’ve got all the ideas ready to go.

And just as a P.S., here’s the latest post I wrote for The SITS Girls around Organization Tips for Efficient Blogging, sounds fancy, right?

How to Keep Your Blogging Head in the Game With all the packing, I've been keeping my head in the game of blogging, social media, marketing and strategy with podcasts. So what are you waiting for? Press play on this video post. I dare you! @faithfulsocial

Be Your Brand

If we ever met me in real life, I’d be just as I am in the following video.

If we ever met in real life, I would be encouraging, talking about others who have inspired me that I think you should check out. 

Be Your Brand Building a brand isn't really that hard. In fact, there's one branding question you can ask yourself every time you try to connect with other bloggers, creatives or just people a video post by @faithfulsocial

If we ever met in real life, I would take you to my favorite ice cream shop where they serve up Maple Bacon Ice Cream.

If we ever met in real life, I would have a smile on from ear to ear, just like that picture of me on the right.

If we ever met in real life I would listen to you, ask questions and make you laugh your face off. I’m funny. Even this chick thinks so, and she’s a hilarious humor blogger that has written for HuffPo, Scary Mommy and others.

If we ever met in real life, you’d get that I am no different online than I am in real life (except maybe that funny part. I think my funny doesn’t translate as well in the written word. You need all the theatrics because I’m 4’11”).

Be Your Brand. Be who you are and own it. 

In today’s video post, I talk about being the same person on line that you are in real life. It should be an equal blend. If not, what’s the point? I talk about a person I met over the weekend who embodied this perfectly. It blew me away. 

Take a peek…

Remember that the profiles you are connecting with online, are real people.

People want to feel like they are being heard, because deep down we all want to matter. 

To stand out, all you have to do is remember that in every interaction you make. Ask yourself, how can I make this person feel heard? And act on it.  

The book I referenced is How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

And here is Uncustomary Art (Mary), on Facebook so her birthday present of 2,000 fans will be realized!

Here is the Instagram quote I referenced that was the inspiration for this post

I’m going on vacation next week. I’m authentically being my brand and taking a break, for realsies! I am not just doing it in real life and pretending that I’m on with automated tweets and shares. In real life, we need time to recharge, refresh and spend time with our families. But, you can go on vacation with me! Wouldn’t that be fun! We can share caramel lattes and glazed donuts on the lake and talk about that time I thought cutting my hair short was a great idea (The Karate Kid circa 1984 is not a good look for me).

I am sending an email to my VIP subscribers telling them how to spend a week with me in the Adirondacks (along with an exclusive social media tip of the week, per usual). 

Be Your Brand Building a brand isn't really that hard. In fact, there's one branding question you can ask yourself every time you try to connect with other bloggers, creatives or just people a video post by @faithfulsocial

Can Your No to an Opportunity Really Mean Yes?

We’re changing things up a bit for June. I am guest posting for The SITS Girls this Friday and upcoming Monday. When I post there, I share a sister or “pivot” post here. What I mean by that is, I volunteer for a topic at The SITS Girls  and then shift my focus slightly and take another angle and write about that here.  

Video posts are usually on Thursdays but, since this week is a little different, I thought we can get away with a video post a day early, right? Let’s do this!

Can Your No to an Opportunity Really Mean Yes? by @faithfulsocial

I really do think that opportunities come the harder you work. I don’t think they just fall out of thin air because of your inherent greatness. Doing the work is everything. That said, just because an opportunity comes your way doesn’t mean you have to say yes. 

As I mention in this video, I have qualifiers that the potential opportunity has to meet before I say yes. The opportunity can be anything from guest posts to sponsored posts to collaboration with others. These qualifiers are:

It has to help solidify your brand. I don’t think it would make sense for me to take on a sponsored post opportunity for Drake’s Cakes, even though I love them (Coffee Cake? YUM!) but that’s not the brand I’m building is it? If it doesn’t align with the brand that you are trying to create, sorry Charlie, don’t do it. You don’t want to dilute what you’ve worked so hard to build up.

Money or “The Grand Exchange”. This isn’t because we’re money hungry. If you spend time away from your family or loved ones and work on your next best thing, you should be compensated for it. Know your worth. The caveat here is, let’s say the opportunity checks all your boxes, but there’s no money. There is something to be exchanged though, expertise, knowledge, networking and building up that portfolio of work. Sometimes, that trumps the almighty dollar, right? 

You have to feel at home doing it. If you feel like you are putting on sunblock when you’re creating doing something, you’re readers are going to know it. Putting on sunblock, for me anyway, makes me feel like I am sheathed in plastic wrap. Whenever you create anything, you should feel like you doing it, or it’s not worth your time.

That said, if it scares you, that’s different.

Always say yes to what scares you.

Every opportunity is an opportunity to solidify your boundaries, highlight who you are and what you’re about – whether that’s a yes or a no.

When you say no, you’re saying yes to yourself.

You have to walk away from the declined opportunity with your head held high. Honor the person who thought of you in the first place and feel genuinely flattered that they thought of you because that means you’re doing something right. You’re getting noticed because you’re doing the work.

Friday, expect a post on how to delight your audience in a really authentic way (that ties into my post over at The SITS Girls) and my VIP email subscribers will get the 411 on a hashtag strategy that I am loving. Over the weekend, I’m heading to BlogU to get my learn on in Baltimore. While I can’t party on Saturday night, I am taking advantage of all the awesome they have going on Friday and Sunday. 

On Monday, you’ll get another post from me about coming up with fresh blog post ideas with another post on how to get from idea to great blog post over at The SITS Girls too!

Lastly, this month I am hosting some Twitter chats this month for The SITS Girls too. I am still working out the topics we’ll talk about, but would love it if you were able to join in the fun. Those dates are: 

  • June 8th, June 22nd and June 29th at 8PM 
  • June 27th at 10AM
  • All times ET
  • Use #sitsblogging

So, talk to me. What are your qualifiers? Have you said yes to an opportunity and regretted it? I want all the deets!!

Can Your No to an Opportunity Really Mean Yes? by @faithfulsocial

How to Make Your Social Strategy Successful

You work hard at social media.

You strive to share the content of others more than your own.

You read everything you can from every respected blog and site on best practices.

But the needle isn’t moving. When will your “tipping point” arrive? When will all of your hard work pay off?

You read everything you can from every respected blog and site on best practices. But the needle isn't moving. When will your

In this video, not only do I talk about what not to do, I share a couple of ways to make your social strategy successful. You may already be using these strategies without even realizing it. If you are using these strategies, you’re more ahead of the game than you think. You can always level up these strategies by pivoting. Let me explain:

See how simple that is? Social media is daunting enough, let’s make it a little easier to cut through the noise and get to what matters, connection.

If you watched the video, you know what I’m going to ask you and you know what your challenge is. 

I’ll share my top 3 to 4 people, if you’ll share yours, in the comments.

You read everything you can from every respected blog and site on best practices. But the needle isn't moving. When will your