And I’m Back…

I didn’t think this would happen, and I was in denial about it for a while. I’m back and with two rebranding-complete overhaul-blogger-to-wordpress-transfer-subscription-revamps, and a couple of social media strategy clients under my belt .

And Im Back Faithfully Social

I decided to shut down my blogging and social media site, delete my email list (such a no no) and work on my crafting instead. My love of hand embroidery and weaving knows no bounds and I am still actively pursing it and blogging about the journey. During that time, people sought me out to help with their blogging and social media strategy.

Those clients referred me to others and I didn’t have a “home” to send them to. So, here we are. I have to work on my own social media presence. I got rid of all the @faithfullysocial handles (again another no no) and have to research whether I can get them back, or have to start fresh, or heck, just combine my @cristinamakes handles. I moved from Squarespace back to WordPress (not fun) and have to clean up my site as I juggle client work, my Etsy shop, school, kids, marriage and a pup!

Just know, that I’m back and will be blogging as much as I can about the reintroduction process. As in, when you’ve pulled the plug, how do you plug back in? Because that’s what I’m going through right now and you know how much I love to share. In the meantime, check out these two launches I am SO very proud of (that are still a work in progress, but sometimes, you gotta hit publish!).

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Katie Cross Rebrand by Cristina at Faithfully Social

Mary Lenaburg

Mary Lenaburg Rebrand by Cristina at Faithfully Social

So glad to be back, and thank you for bearing with me (and thanks to Katie, Mary and Colleen for having so much faith in me). Sometimes we close the door on something that we should really leave a crack open, because you never know.

Lesson learned.

Should You Be On Periscope?

Surely you’ve heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it’s the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons.

Are you running a marathon? In the middle of a protest? On a roller coaster at your favorite theme park? Why not share those moments with the world at large (and by world, I mean whoever downloads the app – and that is currently 10 million registered users).

In this post, I share some links to great tutorials should you want to dive in, or just get your pinky toe wet. I’ll also share some Periscope tips for bloggers and my thoughts on whether you should jump on this new social media bandwagon.

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel. by @faithfulsocial

Like Instagram, you can only use this app from a smartphone, capturing the on-the-go, real life moments you experience. What I personally love about Periscope, is the interaction your audience has in real time as you record. In the left hand corner of the screen, as you live stream, people watching can chime in with comments, questions, where they’re from, you name it. For those people that are more introverted (ahem, me) you have the <3 option. Literally.

If you tap on the lower right hand side of your screen as you’re watching a ‘scope – you’re sending “love” to the person streaming that shows on everyone’s screen. Granted, they won’t know who’s sending the “love” but I find I’m more inclined to give “love” by tapping the right hand side of my screen, when watching a ‘scope if I see others doing it (or until I get to a purple heart. Ahhh).  Why is “love” important to you? The more hearts receives pushes you up on the “Featured” Periscope list, which means you get seen by more peeps!

 

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel.by @faithfulsocial

 

I won’t go into full on tutorial mode, there are TONS of those already out there. Want my favorites? Of course you do. The Beginner’s Guide to Periscope for Bloggers by Julie at Fabulous Blogging is freshly published yesterday – perfect timing. The other site I refer clients to is Periscope Tutorial: How to [and Why] Use Twitter’s Periscope on iOS by Ana at Traffic Generation Cafe.

Having only ‘scoped three times, I’ve watched more than I’ve streamed. I don’t just watch ‘scopes for fun though, I watch how bloggers have been using Periscope and here are some tips:

1. Announce that you’re going to live stream on Periscope prior to and after streaming. This way you build some buzz and generate more views because you’re preparing your audience as opposed to just jumping on. *Caveat if you’ve never scoped, just jump in and do it! You’ll never know if you like it and/or perfect your scoping skillz (yes, with a z) if you don’t try it.

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel. by @faithfulsocial

2. Title your Periscope with a catchy headline. Use emojis to stand out when creating your headlines (see, just like Instagram)

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel.by @faithfulsocial

3, Be sure to add one hashtag in your title.  Persicope adds #periscope to each headline by default. Check this out, as an example (and try not to be average while doing it):

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel.by @faithfulsocial

3. Don’t wait for someone to show up on Periscope, just start talking. This app is recording, remember? It lasts for 24 hours (unless you save to your camera roll for sharing later).

4. You can run contests and giveaways on Periscope! Say you’re a book blogger, you can do a ‘scope and give away a book to the 10th person that chimes in or the 3rd person that answers a question you ask, correctly or the 11th person who’s handle starts with the letter m, you name it.

5. Periscope lets you do behind the scenes, on steroids! You can show anything from how you DIY’ed your nightstand, to how you create content, places of inspiration, baking your killer Guinness Chocolate Cake, the skies the limit.

6. Scopin’ on the daily. If you can commit to this, you can set a scope every day at the same time. This is great for progress updates (I’m looking at you fitness bloggers, or even gardening bloggers!) or if you’re attending a conference or special event.

7. Scope before and/or after Twitter chat, Google Hangout, or Facebook threaded chat.  This is a great way keep pushing your audience right where you want them. You can tease on one platform and then deliver on  Periscope.

8. Give content exclusively to your subscribers. If you have an email list (I know you do), you can ask that they follow you on Periscope.  You can inform them of when your exclusive for them Periscope (because you’ve set the ‘scope to private and invite them)  is about to go down! They’ll love it!

Now for the nitty gritty.

 

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel. by @faithfulsocial

 

Should you be on Periscope?

As with any social media channel, you need to evaluate what kind of channel it is for you. In this case, do you like video? Do you like real time interaction, or (if you’re a visual person) do you prefer Instagram or Pinterest instead?

Try recording a quick video, just for yourself, to see if you enjoy it. Maybe sharing that on Instagram (make it 15 seconds!) and see if you like sharing in this way.

At the very least, grab your username so you have it should you want to tap into this new channel. There’s nothing wrong with being a wallflower and watching other ‘scopes for a while. I do it, and still do.

I’m still not sure if I’ll be a regular ‘scoper. While the point is to capture real-time-so-it’s-not-perfect video, I see the other extreme where there are people using tripods, lighting, rehearsing, outlining topics, getting their makeup and hair just right, and for me, that’s -not- the point. That’s also not to say that those ‘scopes aren’t inspiring, informative and watched. They are.

 

Surely you've heard about the live streaming app called Periscope? Apparently, it's the closest thing to teleportation this side of The Jetsons. In this post, I share some links to great Periscope tutorials, provide Periscope tips for bloggers along with my thoughts on whether you or not you should jump on this new social media channel.by @faithfulsocial

 

As with all social media, whether it’s Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Instagram, Google+, Snapchat, or now, Periscope, try it and see if you like it. If you don’t enjoy it, toss it.

There’s nothing that says you have to be on anything. Spend time on the social channels you enjoy. Your audience will pick up on your sincerity and interact where you are most comfortable.

What’s your take on the Periscope craze? I’d love to hear your take in the comments!

How to Pitch Influencers in Your Niche

I’m sure you’ve read all of the “How to Boost Blog Traffic” lists until your head exploded. One of the most cited tips is to share an expert roundup post. An expert round up post, is where one blogger reaches out to other niche specific bloggers and asks them their opinion. In return, a link to the niche specific blogger’s site is included in the expert round up post.

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social

How does an expert round up post bring traffic? The niche specific blogger will likely share your post with their audience. Say you ask 10 people and they have 6,000 followers collectively across all their social media. You’ve just tapped into 60,000 people you wouldn’t ordinarily reach alone.

If you amplify that and pitch an influencer in your niche with say, a quazillion followers – well, you can do that math right? But how do you pitch an influencer in your niche in such a way that will get a yes?

That’s what we’re talking about today. Why? Because I pitched content creators for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls today and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women – and some of them are heavy hitters. Who do you ask? Here are the 10, with my own fun titles attached to them (as you can see, Iove alliteration):

Peg Fitzpatrick Social Media Marketing Master (has over 1,000,000 followers)
Amy Lynn Andrews Queen of the Useletter
Pauline Cabrera Blogging + Social Media tips Power Playah
Andrea Beltrami Branding Behemoth
Charissa Moore Copywriting Cool Cat
Charity Craig Maven of Marriage + Entrepreneurial Empress
Jessica Rea Mistress of Marketing + Design
Jen Kominsky Virtual Assistant Vixen + Super Mom
Rhonda Ortiz Web Design Diva
Jenna Guizar Sage of Women’s Ministry

If I do the math right, that’s a reach of 127K on Twitter alone, approximately. Just Twitter. I’ll let you check their other profiles, squeal (like I did) and then come back to finish this post! Here’s what I did:

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 1: Make a dream list

I had a total of 15 people I reached out to. These people were a mix of men and women and included influencers in the social media and blogging tips space. I had one question to go on as I brainstormed. Who would I want to read secret blogging tips from? At first, I thought I would ask friends I’d made since I started blogging, and there are a few from the list that fit that description. But that’s safe, right? We’re all about getting out of our comfort zones.

Then a small voice chimed in “Cristina, go big or go home!”. That’s when my brainstorming went ballistic and I started dropping names on paper.

The key here is to choose people that you have actively been engaging with. You wouldn’t ask a stranger for $20 right? Same applies. All of the people I chose were people I engaged with.

What does solid engagement look like?

  • Share their content on social media
  • Comment on their blog
  • Listen to their podcast and rate in iTunes
  • Participate in their Facebook Group
  • +1 them on Google
  • Subscribe to their emails
  • <3 their Instagram post
  • Purchase a product from them
  • Join a Twitter chat they host

Get the picture? This won’t work if you just did one of these engagement suggestions the day before you send the pitch. This is what I worked on and cultivated over time. This is why it was almost easy for me to reach out to them. Come from a place of humility – always.

And don’t worry about what your pitch will look like at this point, just draft up a dream team list – even if it includes Taylor Swift.

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 2: Under each name write three things that you admire about them

I’m all about the visuals. To keep the excitement (and the ball rolling, because I can get easily distracted), I wanted to list out why I admired the people I was pitching to warm up to the actual pitch stage.

Know your why

As with everything, always start with knowing your why. Why exactly did you add Jane to your list? Is she your friend? Do you secretly check out her blog because you love its design? Do you still refer to her e-book, have you shared a link to a post you love with all of your friends? Whatever the reasons write them down.

This will help you personalize each email you send, saving you time as you craft the emails and personalize them. If you have to go back or research on the internet the name of their specific offer, the one tweet they shared where you LOL’ed your latte all over your shirt, what have you. Write it all out next to their names.

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 3: Set a timeline

People are busy. Don’t reach out to influencers with a few days notice. That’s not cool. You know they have editorial calendars, blog posts to write, conferences to speak at and Twitter chats to moderate. Be a good steward of their time and give them at least three weeks.

Here’s how a pitch timeline could look

  • July 3rd send your email
  • July 24th receive all of your responses and start editing
  • July 31st post is published

Within the three week time frame there’s a week built in for you to edit your post and to receive late responses – it happens because it’s called life!

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 4: Craft an email

This is where the work comes in. I have the great privilege of working in corporate for many years and loving the written word.

If this scares you, go back to Step 2, see those three things you wrote under each name? Another reason for that is, it makes them human to you. You can write to another person if you’ve humanized them, right? Think about it, they’ve attracted you out of a sea of social media for a reason. You connect. Start there.

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 5: Make it personable, detailed and sincere

Use their first name, the name of their ebook, offering, Facebook Group, you name it. Share how you appreciate their particular brand and why. (Do I have to say that it shouldn’t look like this:

Dear Jane, I just love your particular brand because it’s so great. You are awesome. I love your tweets.

YAWN!

Be specific here. For example, I shared with Peg that she is my virtual mentor and I was honest when I shared that I was a little scared about writing to ask her for something, but I was pushing send quickly because I only had 2.3 milliseconds of courage left.

If you’re real, and you share what’s on your heart – I promise, that cannot be denied. Or maybe it can, it happens – but you’ll always feel good about letting the real you shine through.

End your email with a thank you. You want to impress upon them how much you appreciate their time and especially their content. You know how long it takes to create a blog post, these are your peeps, influencer or not. Let them know from one content creator to another that you LOVE their work. And mean it.

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 6: Include everything you need

This is similar to the sandwich method I shared. You started your email with why you approached them, now you need to go in for the big ask. Be sure to remember all of the relevant details. You don’t want to come off as unprofessional, receive a yes, and then say “Oh yeah, can you get it to me by next week, and I need a profile pic too.”

Don’t forget to include the following in your pitch:

  • Deadline you want to receive the quote back
  • Request for a profile pic
  • Request for which link you should include in their quote
  • Request for what title they would like to go by (it’s not obvious for everyone, and you want to get it right)

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 7: Send, and wait

What? You think there are tips for this? Drink lots of lattes and eat lots of scones. Mmmm scones.

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 8: Reply to all pitch responses in a timely fashion

Always start off with a sincere thank you. Even if you get a no! In fact, if you get a no, high five yourself. Why? Because you actually reached out. So many people don’t even muster up the courage to start a blog and publish a post.

You reached out to people you admire, you asked them to help you, pat yourself on the back (and grab another scone).

 

I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social.

Step 9: Keep it real

I didn’t choose all “super rock star” influencers for the post. I included my closest blogging friends to add to the conversation. Why? Because they’ve influenced me. They have been with me through all of the doubt, all of the changes, the rebranding and the random Facebook messages in the middle of the night with another hare-brained idea.

They’re in the same boat as I am and you are. I know we have similar audiences of bloggers and creators who are always looking to improve themselves and the content they create, so why wouldn’t I ask them? Ask your blogging friends too. Pay it forward.

Know your audience

Don’t send the email you crafted to your niche influencer to your blog friends, you can be MUCH more relaxed and informal. In the cases of Jenna, Rhonda, Charity and Jen, I just asked them over Google chat, Facebook messenger and text. Ok, so I forwarded a few of the yesses I received from the rock star influencers saying “She.actually.responded. Now you have to send me something. Pleeeeeeeze!!!”. That’s really how it went.

Now what are you waiting for? Check out my results on The SITS Girls, What Is The Best Blogging Advice You’ve Ever Received?

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 I pitched bloggers for an expert round up post on The SITS Girls and received a “yes” from a total of 10 women - and some of them are heavy hitters in the social media and blogging tips space. How did I do it? I share all of my tips, processes and tricks for pitching influencers by Faithfully Social

 

 

8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers

Facebook terrifies me.

All those algorithm changes and dings for not doing something right.

To me, Facebook feels like childhood, where you don’t know what you’re doing and any mistake can cost you. What do I do with my fear? Eat it for lunch and share my lunch with all of you.


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8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers. Why should you have to scour the interwebs for blogger hacks that can help you engage with your fans on Facebook? Let me do it for you! @faithfulsocial

With stats like these from Post Planner? I have to:

  • 1.39 billion active users
  • half of users log in daily
  • 5 profiles are created every second!
  • 30 million business have fan pages
  • $234 million dollars in virtual goods & gifts were purchased in Q2 of 2014
  • 1 billion searches every day

I compiled a list of Facebook hacks just for bloggers that I’ve implemented and knew you’d like in one handy place. Why should you scour? I can do it for you!

Boost a Facebook post that’s already doing well

This would have to mean that you’re looking at Facebook insights on your page. You are, aren’t you? All you need to do is:

  1. Go to your insights (at the top of your Facebook fan page)
  2. Sort “All Posts Published” by Reach (the other options you’ll see are “Type”, “Targeting” and “Engagement”)
  3. Check out the posts you’ve shared of your content that are performing well.
  4. Click on “Boost Post” to see this screen below. You can use the default settings, but why would you? Why not target your audience to your target market. In this example, I use social media, blogging, marketing, blogging tips and others.

8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers. Why should you have to scour the interwebs for blogger hacks that can help you engage with your fans on Facebook? Let me do it for you! @faithfulsocial

5. Further customize by loacation and age group. Don’t know where to start on this? Check your analytics, where are most of your viewers coming from? If from the US, why would you want to target people from other countries?

8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers. Why should you have to scour the interwebs for blogger hacks that can help you engage with your fans on Facebook? Let me do it for you! @faithfulsocial

6. Add your total budget (don’t get crazy, just use $5)

7. You can adjust how long you want it to run. But again, can you skip a latte and do this for a day? Make the money work?

8. Click boost, then sit back and bite your nails. Why? That’s what I did.

There are so many customizations including coupons, including payment methods and the like. Read all about How to Boost Posts on Your Facebook Page here.


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Use one liners

One liners work in a bar, if they’re done right. You know how I feel about social media and bars, right? Well, try it with Facebook. People love it because it’s quick and they get to put their two cents in. Case in point:

My favorite cartoon growing up was _________.

Posted by Faithfully Social on Friday, July 10, 2015

Who doesn’t like to remember childhood cartoons? Pick something quick and easy – but make it open ended. You don’t want to have a “yes” or “no” response set up. The conversation has no place to go, unless you resurrect it – and sometimes, that can be awkward.

Use first names when responding to Facebook posts

If you see the threaded comments, I tried to use people’s first names when responding. I had to make the tough choice of responding timely, or waiting till I got back in front of a laptop, to properly tag them. If you can, you’ll always want to tag the person you’re responding to and Facebook allows it, if they’ve commented on your post. When you tag the person in a response, they are more likely to reply back to you. Why? People want to be courteous, they don’t want to leave you hangin’!

Share your Facebook post more than once

You know my schedule for blog post promotion. For Facebook specifically, just because you’ve shared it, doesn’t mean it’s the equivalent of a red carpet Oscar dress (as in, never to be seen again). Share it monthly.

How can you do this easily? I use Buffer and schedule them all the way out to the end of the year. Wouldn’t a recurring feature be lovely here?

Don’t lose your following, merge

When I was rebranding, I thought I would have to start a completely new Facebook page under the new name. In fact, I did. A friend of mine asked me why I didn’t merge my pages. Merge my what? Here’s the form on Facebook to request a merge of duplicate pages.

The pages must be about the same topic. At most you’ll wait 7 days, but mine was approved faster than that. I kept all of my followers and the new name transition was seamless.

Use hashtags

Facebook likes 2-3 hashtags at most. I try not to use them at all, unless it’s for something like #amazonprimeday or #happyfriday. I keep it fun and interesting but keeping within the Facebook theme of sharing, community and being real.

Here’s an extra tip – if you cross post from Instagram to Facebook, keep your hashtags to two or three in the post description, then go back and add all of your relevant Instagram hashtags in the first comment. This way, you play fair on Facebook and Instagram. I’ve said it before, but it definitely bears repeating.

Don’t know what to share? Save yourself some time and use the save feature

I love this feature and have TONS saved.

8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers. Why should you have to scour the interwebs for blogger hacks that can help you engage with your fans on Facebook? Let me do it for you! @faithfulsocial

When you come across something you love, scrolling personally, for your blog or small business, just click on that down arrow and you can save the link for later.

8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers. Why should you have to scour the interwebs for blogger hacks that can help you engage with your fans on Facebook? Let me do it for you! @faithfulsocial

Scroll down in your Facebook homepage and there are all of your links saved and ready to share when you want to.

And yes, those are all the Facebook Communities I belong to, but you already knew most of them, right?

Add Facebook links in emails you send to your subscriber list in a non-spammy way

Why not share an email to your subscribers asking them to chime in on a Facebook post?

It’s super simple to do. Head to the Facebook post you reference in your email, and click on the date. It’s a URL. All you need to do, is right click on that date link, copy and embed in an email

Why not try it with a “One Liner” this week. If your email subscribers haven’t followed you on Facebook yet, this could be a really “soft-sell” way to remind them “Hey, follow on on Facebook!! It’s fun times”.

If you’re looking for more Facebook hacks for bloggers, head here for The Ultimate List of Facebook Hacks (they are 5 SUPER meaty ones) that I shared on The SITS Girls today.

P.S. What do you think of the new graphics? I am kinda digging flat design.

8 Facebook Hacks for Bloggers. Why should you have to scour the interwebs for blogger hacks that can help you engage with your fans on Facebook? Let me do it for you! @faithfulsocial

Don’t Catch the Ball

If someone throws a ball at you it doesn’t mean you have to catch it. I learned this many years ago when I was a Bilingual Trading Assistant at Bear Stearns. I had a manager at the time who was not a very good leader. She had a different way of saying this to me, or maybe it’s a different perspective. She would say “Lob the grenade”. In my early 20s, when I had this job, I knew it wasn’t the right way to think of it. You don’t want to pass the problem off, or “the ball” to someone else. You just don’t need to catch it.

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial

Watch to see what I’m talking about. And please forgive the lighting. I’m in the new house, am pressed for time and don’t know where the best spot is to record yet. Next week, I’ll have it all down.

Don’t we always want to run in and help? Think about conversations you have with friends, colleagues and family members. When people come to you with their issues and problems, it doesn’t mean that they’re looking at you to solve they’re problems every time. Sometimes, they just want you to nod along with them and feel like they’re being heard.

Don’t take it all on. You don’t have to. In fact, you’re not supposed to.

Here are those links I promised you in the video!

My very first She Owns It post, The Key to Creating Great Killer Content went up yesterday and holy Twitter! If mine didn’t blow up. I really wanted to share a different gif from A Night At The Roxbury here but couldn’t find it. You know when Will Ferrell’s character, Steve Butabi, enters the club and slightly panics because he feels he has to say hi to everyone in the room?

Well, you all know how I feel about thanking people when they share your posts? Yeah, I was all “hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up, hi, hey, what’s up”. It was great, but also slightly stressful for me and needed some coddling. I’ll be a featured contributor there monthly, so I have to come up with a better plan for that!

Thursday’s are podcast day in my work week! This week on the Building Bridges Podcast Jenna and I talk to Nell of Whole Parenting Family (which I realize in the video I repeated twice, ahem). We talk about parenting, sex and the many paths motherhood can take. There are rap references, sex talk kids and tears. Why? Because that’s basically motherhood, right? I love hearing how these women (and men sometimes) live their lives to show that we can all connect with one another in some way.

On Tuesday, I shared a post right here titled 5 Sites That Will Change How You Blog. I share just 5 of the quazillion blogs and sites I follow using Feedly that has changed how I blog. Don’t discard them just because you may be a new blogger or feel it’s over your head. You’re smarter than you give yourself credit for.

I began reading these when I didn’t know what a .gif was. I just knew, like any new language, the more you expose yourself to it, the more sense it will make. If you’re serious about this blogging thing, then do the work!

Thursday’s are a big deal around here aren’t they? Video, podcasts, candy canes?

In what ways do you take on other problems and issues you probably shouldn’t? Does it happen at the office, on PTO boards, friendships? Let’s talk about it and remember, don’t catch the ball (not every time).

So often we take on the problems others are having and feel the need to solve them. We don't have to. Not all the time. How does this come up for you? Family, the office, friendships? You'd be surprised how we automatically jump in to save the day by @faithfulsocial